"Women are nurturing" "Women can't be abusive" "Women being abusive isn't as bad as men" "It's not that bad" "You're overreacting" "You're both girls. It's normal to get violent"

These are all things I've heard. There's for some reason a stigma that women are allowed to get away with abuse. Even on here I see girls post admitting they hit their boyfriend and women in the comments only focus on what the man did yet if it was the other way around then it's wrong for some reason. Thoughts like this are why women think they can get away with abuse. Because they are rarely held accountable for it. I had my wife hold a gun to my head and threaten to kill me, our son, and herself. Fact is, lesbians tend to have a higher domestic violence rate than straight and gay couples but it's just swept under the rug. Escaping an abusive lesbian relationship is hard. First off some domestic violence shelters will turn you away if they're religious and know you had a wife. My wife abused me. Manipulated me. And raped me on several occasions with a strap on. The last time I tried to leave before finally escape she pulled a gun on my and held it to her head and said she would kill all three of us if I left. She worked from home to watch me like a hawk. I was so abused by her. I had been pushed on the stairs. She went and threw my birth certificate and social in the fire. She spit on me. Said she hates our son. Finding help if you're in an abusive same sex relationship is hard, especially for lesbians because women aren't held to the same standard about not being abusive as men are. And a lot of places that help in these situations are religious based. Everyday since that gun was pulled to my head I worried for our life. I had to be smart to get out... So the only way I could do it was drugging her. When she was knocked out I got my son and we left. I went to the police station and have a restraining order against her and sole custody of our son. There is so much more debt to my abuse. What I had to escape but I'm not completely ready to share it. Just know me and my son are a state away from her

@Madds you're definitely taking what I said wrong. I'm not saying one is worse than the other. I'm saying there aren't as many resources to get out of an abusive relationship gay relationship and I brought up facts. Lesbian have a higher domestic violence rate but it's swept under the rug. I'm bringing light to abusive relationships in the LGBT community.