Sometimes we attract the wrong men because we're subconsciously afraid of attracting the right one. A good man offers the possibility of a committed relationship, and that can be scary. You might have a wall up that is blocking him or anyone like him from accessing you yet you may allow mr. wrong in because you know he has no chance whatsoever. Or there may be single men around you but they may not be viewed by you as attractive. My good friend came up with this theory that the majority of men or women spend their time chasing and being attracted to the same eight people who everyone else wants. There is no way that these eight individuals can marry everyone therefore someone will lose out. However, while this chase is going on good, viable single men and women are simultaneously being overlooked because they do not meet the “criteria”. If they are being overlooked guess what’s left? All you will see are the bad apples. Take a good look around you. Are you really only attracting married and taken men or are there any single men that are approaching you but you are not noticing because they are not your “type”? I am not telling you to lower your standards, I am asking you to look at your mental list and see if it’s realistic or reasonable. It just might need some tweaking.

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