Sex life help!!

Hey ladies! So I desperately need some advice..my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now and I love him to death. However, we have hit a dry sprout. We maybe only have sex (or do anything sexual) about twice a month, sometimes even less. Now the sex alone is good, but it typically only last about 5 minutes a time..if that, and he is typically a one & done type of guy. This has been going on for about 6 months now. He seems to be content with it, but I need more. I personally am a very sexual person and I crave that intimacy as a way to feel close & connected to him. If it were up to me we would be way more active. Now I have expressed to him multiple times that I want him to initiate being close with me more and usually he responds by saying I can initiate it too it shouldn't all be on him. However I have tried multiple times in the past and he's turned me down.However it was also late-ish, he said was tired & had to go to sleep bc he works a full time job and had to be up early. Which I understood but it also took a knock to my confidence after being rejected so many times And going so long without being close with him, I'm starting to feel desperate and more distant than ever. I'm confused why I'm the only feeling alone and going through all the emotions and he doesnt even feel the need to make that time a priority for us. So now I've been leaving it up to him, waiting for him to come to me. And he hasn't in weeks. He's never really been good with initiating it the very few times he actually has made attempts in our relationship I almost feel like he doesn't really know what to do to get me in the mood, for example, when he approaches me, he will be being goofy and playful and i think he believes thatll do the job but i need more than that, i want to feel real passion from him, I want him to actually touch me, hold me, kiss me, carress me but I can't even tell you the last time he's touched me sexually. Now I just feel like it's more awkward for us to get to that point with eachother than ever. We love eachother, you'd think it would come natural. But there is this sexual disconnect and I'm just not quite sure what to do about it at this point. However, something he does very much enjoy & try to initiate quite often Is oral, he ALWAYS wants me to go down on him. I know he prefers that alot of the time but there was a point in our relationship that was basically all we were doing and he was perfectly content with it so I put a stop to it bc only his needs were being met. So now we're here..sexless. And I just feel more distant and further away from him than ever, it is starting to take a toll on our relationship. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you💕