Husband

To start my daughter is 2 years old (3months)

She's going through her no and tantrum phase . All normal stuff.

I wanted to get some input about what my husband does if any body else has experienced this.

Any time she freaks out or screams or does anything tantrum wise my husband kind of shuts off. He gets angry on the inside and doesn't want to deal with this, any little loud tantrum noise is "I already have a headache." I've tried talking to him about all you have to do is talk to her she understands a lot . I've taught her to show me where her ears are and that means listen and it is a very good trick for her to take a minute to focus on talking. Also asking her to use her words if she's upset about something cause I don't know why she's upset. I have passed this stuff on to my husband and she does well with it and tantrums last less then 2 minutes . My feelings are that she shuts off and just doesn't want to deal with it . It stresses him out. At the same time he's her father he chose to have a child and parenting is a constant changing thing you need to work at. I just feel a little defeated that I'm the other one doing any parenting in the household. Any input, wisdom, or experience anybody could share with me ?