Any advice?
So I've been talking to this guy and we have feelings for eachother but we've decided to not date until at least knowing eachother for 3 months.
Well I've been in previous relationships and he's never been in one. I feel like we are complete opposites sometimes. He is very social, i keep to myself. He has many friends, i don't have many. He feels better being around people, i like being alone. He has good family, i don't... You get the point.
But what I'm starting to notice is he takes things personal sometimes and he can be sensitive but he tries not to show, however i always catch it cause of the tone of his voice. And I'm not a mean person but im very observant and sometimes i voice those observations not meaning to be hurtful at all.
He also is optimistic but i feel because of what I've been through, I'm more realistic. Or "pessimistic" as he likes to call it. Which is true at times i can't lie.
So he's working to get his own apartment and I'm really happy for him but he's decided to move in with roommates because it's cheaper. Now i can understand but i personally would not be able to do it. And he was telling me how his mom was asking him if he's sure he wants to. And i agreed because it's a lot to think about especially since one of those roommates he's never met.
He tells me its all good. And then I agree with him and say yes you're right it won't even matter in the end, it will be worth getting your own place. And he's like "yess that's what I always want to hear from you, i want your support!"
And i told him you always have my support but I'm the type of friend that will keep it real for with you. I will always be on your side but I won't follow you blindly. I will tell you if I think you're wrong but i will also be your biggest supporter. I told him you can tell me if you want my support or if you need some reality.
He said he doesn't want my support if it's forced.
I told him it's not forced, I'm just what you might need in the moment.
And he Said he's gonna keep that same energy with me. And i said ok well that's good but you don't have to mirror me all the time, be who you are.
And idk i mention before he's very sensitive because sometimes i feel so misunderstood by him. I feel like sometimes he doesn't understand my reality.
Also i mention I've been in previous relationships because i know what it's like to be in a toxic relationship and i just don't want that at all anymore. I also feel like I'm constantly trying to walk this thin line of doing what's "right" and reacting in a bad way like bringing back my old habits. But I've been through so much i don't want to be that girl anymore. So when he tells me he's just matching my energy it's like, i don't mean any ill intention with anything i do to you, so if something bothers him why not communicate that with me instead of being petty?
But at the same time maybe I'm just assuming he's trying to be petty. It just comes off that way. Either way I'm very over the childish stuff.
I haven't texted all day today cause when i was explaining to him about what kind of friend i am (we were talking otp) he kind just cut me off and said we should end it for the night. Which tbh I'm about to start my period so i ended crying haha
Anyways Any advice? Am i overthinking this? Idk i guess part of me is scared of being in a relationship. What do y'all think?
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