Do I talk to my husband?

My husband can be very angry and emotionally abusive at times. He has a lot of toxic masculinity and lives his life on what men should do. That's why I'm scared to have kids with him because if we have a boy and a girl he will treat our son differently. He'll be all over our daughter and shower her with love, but treat our son shitty because he's a "man" and wants to make him "manly" and we would be getting a divorce. He thinks men who cry are pussies and say men are too soft. Men don't need therapy. He said he will pop our son in the mouth if he cries above the age of 4. Now I really don't know much about my husband's family. I know he's from a small town but he doesn't talk to or about his family or really anything before high school. We drove out of town to visit one of his shitty military buddies and then when we drove back we had to take a detour through a town because of a bad car accident that if we would have left 15 minutes earlier we would have been in. We got gas and when he looked around he went white and started to walk away. I got out and asked where he was going and he just told me to get out of his way. Then he starts hyperventilating. I asked what was wrong and he said "Idk... I... Can't .. breathe". He was having a panic attack and I couldn't calm him down. He started screaming at the too of his lungs and covering his ears and hyperventilating.... Idk where we were but it wasn't good. After I finally calmed down. He did something that I never saw him do.... He cried.... He started crying and I said nothing. He tossed the keys at me and sat in the passengers seat and put his elbow on the window and his face in his hand and silently cried all the way home.... He wouldn't get out the car when we got home and he's been sitting out there in the car for 5 HOURS! Idk what to do....

Can someone just answer if I should go speak to my husband plz?