How would you feel? Thoughts/Opinions?

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When we go out to eat and I clean up the table afterwards (stacking plates/transferring food, pouring all liquid into one cup then stacking, etc.) my boyfriend idk he gets annoyed? He’ll make comments like “why’re you doing that?” “That’s their job” “You’re doing too much” I just kinda ignore it/brush it off, idk I just want to make things easier you know? I’m the one doing it like just let me be, just sit there and be quiet until we leave dude 🙄. It irks me but I let it go, anyways how would you feel?

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It would piss me off. It doesn't affect him but it probably makes a server's life so much easier. Keep being considerate and ignore him, perhaps even ask him to leave a bigger tip of he doesn't want to tidy up

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My husband left shopping carts in the parking lot when we first got together. I asked him why and when he said “Job Security” I told him if I ever heard that again then this relationship isn’t for me. 
10 years later he always puts away his cart 😂

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I do the same thing. It comes natural to want to clean up my mess. Lol. I dont know about if it helps the waitress or the busser but it helps someone. I dont know why he would be annoyed. If anything he should want to help and see it from a different pov.

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I know you’re coming from a place of wanting to be helpful which is great! But it is usually easier for servers to clear up a table themselves. Stacked plates are harder to pick up than individual ones, especially when all the cutlery is on them, it’s more likely to slide off.
That said, it sounds like he’s saying you shouldn’t do it because he has a problem with you trying to be helpful, like it’s a bad thing to try to help people, which yes I would find annoying.

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I always try to do this too but family/friends who used to be servers have ALL said that they hate when people do this! I know it’s meaning well but they all have their own system on how they like to clear things, stack them, and carry them. However… his attitude about it doesn’t sound like it’s coming from being thoughtful about what the servers prefer. 😣

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He has a point. Most staff prefer to do that themselves because they know how to do it in a way that’s most efficient for them. Not every person likes it all stacked the same way. I’m not trying to make their job any harder by stacking things in a way they don’t like, so I leave it all be.

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As a former server, please fucking don’t. You make my job harder because you have no idea how I like to balance plates. I guarantee I can take more in one trip if you just let me pick everything up piece by piece.

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