I feel hurt for silly things

Was making a latte for my husband and I and was making the syrup from scratch. He served himself ice in a huge cup and I thought it was for both of us. I went to pour myself some and he said “no that’s mine go serve yourself ice”. I just felt it was a little hurtful because I was making everything and All I did was serve myself lol. He then told me to clean the cups immediately and was being so demanding about it. I said I will in a few but I just don’t understand why he couldn’t when he was literally at the sink and said “yeah well when you’re done drinking your coffee you’re going to clean our cups rights?” This whole situation just made me feel icky and I don’t know why