They don’t change. My first signs were the aggression and the quick to “play fight” but I’d be choked unconscious and he did this when we were happy and playing around. He later said he did this because he had to show me he’s the dominant one. 🚩

We had 2 kids, we got married. I gained weight each time and he made it a point to express how he deserves better , physically he needed someone fit. He makes very good money , I never had to work. He bought us our first house at 22.

I stayed.

This year we decided to take serious measures to try for our third by seeing a fertility doctor after trying for 4 years and I had a miscarriage. He said “y do u care ur turning me off from wanting this. There’s more where that one came from get over it”

I was 6 weeks so I tried to convince myself he was right. We would just try again.

During my miscarriage he got angry and kicked my stomach while he threw me to the ground.

He promised to change and I was so blinded. I desperately wanted another child, we tried for 4 years with no luck. I am now 8 weeks and I’m saving all that I can. I’ve mentally left him. Last night he wanted to go on and get physical again because I caught him watching porn and it made me feel weird. I told him I just didn’t feel right about that. He decided to be physical , call me names and beat me. I now see blurry In one eye and my entire body is bruised. All while we had company over.

It may seem embarrassing, but truthfully I can’t be with him anymore. Ive mentally checked out of being with him. I’m gonna speak with my lawyer and take all that I can to start a life atleast an hour away from him. I am done. I just wanted to rant and show others… they don’t change. It’s been 10 years for me. That first sign of aggression isn’t just him being immature .. it’s a sign that he won’t be a respectful man. Be with a man your children won’t fear for their mothers life with.