“ that’s just how men are “

I’m so tired of everyone telling me to get over it and this is just how men are and all men are this way. It’s not a joke and I’m sick of it. I’m a SAHM and I work part time. Lately I haven’t worked due to constant illness and stress. So of course I do everything. He half asses everything. If he’s home off work he expects me to still do everything and he’ll “ pitch “ in I guess. Example, if he’s off work instead of going to the store to let me have a break he expects me plus all 3 kids to go. Like why?! I go to the store with all of them by myself why can’t he just offer to go by himself or take a kid or something? Why am I expectant to go and still do everything if he’s home to help me? It’s not just the store it’s everything. My kids have been off school since Tuesday cause the storm. They are all cooped up in the house and it’s taking a major toll on everyone. My toddler usually is in daycare and he has been home so his sleep routine is all screwed, his everyday routine is all wonky. He messes with his brother and sister and I have to keep them seperate csuse of course my older two are at an age they want to chill watch their iPads, play the play station etc. I’m doing everything like usual making lunches breakfast dinners, baths, cleaning, doing school work online for the older two with the toddler which is almost impossible. Anyway non of us can even get out due to the roads and it being so cold so. Let the older two go out and play in the snow for a bit but even that was too cold. I try to keep them all busy but it’s still rough. It’s been 5 days stuck inside meanwhile my partner has been working and he’s now sick on top of everything my older two have been throwing up sick, then my toddler got sick and now my partner did and I’m taking care of the kids now he wants me to do this and that and this and that for him on top of it basically babying him and you know o get he’s sick but I have 3 kids to also take care of and he can do most of what he’s asking. He’s acting like a big baby. He slept all day yesturday while I had to do everything but when I’m sick I don’t get to sleep, I still have to get up deal with the kids. I don’t get to rest, I don’t get to have someone take care of me I have to do it all he doesn’t just say “ go lay down and rest I’ll deal with the kids” NO he expects me to get up and deal with it. I’ve had a major migraine on top of it the last 2 days and I still did it cause I just do it. Today he wasn’t even gonna get up and help me he was gonna keep sleeping and I said your doing much better today why can’t you get up and help? He ended up getting up but I asked if he can put the toddler down for a nap because I’m WORN OUT!!! And he got so pissed ID even ask him to do something. I said I do it everyday by myself and you can’t even put your own son to take a nap? And he fought with me just to do something for our kid to help me out for once. Yet I do, I bust my ass sick or not with the kids every day. Yet everyone around me says “ that’s just a men for ya “ “ all men act like babies when they are sick “ and laugh. It’s not funny. Im not taking care of a grown ass man on top of the other kids especially since he doesn’t do any of that for me. Im a mom yes but I deserve help also. Im so tired of this shit. Someone please tell me there are men that aren’t like this!! I am ready to pack my bags. Im over it. There’s no appreciation of what I go through. I feel expected to do it. It’s not fair. I don’t get to do anything he does. I’m the one who can’t work when they need to be home or are sick or whatever he doesn’t have to call in all the time it’s me. I’m expected to pay some of the bills yet I csnt work like he does. I don’t get help offered to me when he sees I’m at a breaking point or just exuasted. If the baby wakes up in the night I have to get up and do it all. I’m tired of this life. I’m basically a single mom so why do I even need him?