Mama drama

Goodmorning ladies💛

Not baby related & kinda long

Gonna try to get the major things out lol

• I was with my little sister over the weekend (14) who stayed at my house

•she asked if I knew about a fight my mom , her boyfriend & her had.

👁👁 I look puzzled because my mom has only dated this guy for a little under a year and there not a family to be having “fights”

So I told her like no I didn’t hear about it care to fill me in? She goes “I forgot”

🤥I’m like no you didn’t or you wouldn’t have mentioned it ?

She proceeds to tell me that

My moms boyfriend was trying to get her attention because she had headphones in & she didn’t hear him. My mom got offended and told her she is to respect him & how she doesn’t pay him any attention & how she is disrespectful they then left her to go get lunch.

(To which I told her she does NOT have to respect ANYBODY who does NOT respect her idc if there older taller shorter fat skinny respect should be given but if someone isn’t respecting you you don’t have to respect them)

She told me when he wakes her up he puts a wet finger in her ear. & she doesn’t like it

But the biggest red flag to me IMO is , he came behind her and whispered “sexy” in her ear. When she told my mom it made her uncomfy my mom told her he was just playing like she does with us.

( we do have a very playful relationship with my MOM but I feel like that was inappropriate with her boyfriend )

My parents are in a NASTY custody / child support battle. My sister lives with my dad has had sole custody since she was 8.

With all the information provided how would you proceed ? I KNOW the right thing is to tell my dad however she confided in me & I’ve told my parents things she’s told me before & it’s really messed up our trust.& as she goes to high school next year I want to be that person she can trust.

How can I address this to my dad if this is the best thing to do?

My sister willingly is at her house this weekend my dad doesn’t force her to go so I’m assuming she’s still somewhat comfortable but idk I just feel like I should mention it to my dad or mom

I’m a little reluctant to talk to my mom about it because as she told my sister he was just “playing “ she doesn’t really care about a lot of things. I guess I am fearful of what may happen my mom moved in with him they live 3hrs away so I wouldn’t be able to get to her that quick if something did happen.

I also thought about leaving it alone since she talked to my mom about it in hopes he won’t do it again & creating a code word with her if she ever is there and is uncomfortable and needs to be picked up or something I’m not sure I’m lost help plz☹️

Also it’s scary and weird .. he likes my mom to dress like a girl he buys her bubbles & gives her allowance and showers her in gifts. She only calls him daddy when she talks about him or when he is around especially she’s always like “daddy is taking me out “ he gives creep vibes my oldest sister said she wouldn’t even allow her kids around him and they’ve never went over there ..

I just don’t want her to be upset at me if she can’t go back over