“Held Hostage”… what

That’s what my husband said…

The picture: I’m a stay at home mom, and I also work remotely. So Sunday to Saturday I’m a mom, and housekeeper, chef, etc. Then also Sunday to Saturday I can work. It’s only a few hours each day depending on what I need to do. But with a baby, 3 hours of work can take a WHOLE day. I’m on mom duty 24/7.

My husband gets a day off on either Tuesday or Thursday and gets every other weekend off, which ends up being like working 4 days in a row, then off.

When he’s off - it’s so nice for me because I get a break from the baby, I still feed him because he REFUSES to take a bottle from anyone but me, and husband can take care of all the other bits. Like moving him from play pen to jumper to bassinet to being held, and I can just work straight for like 2-3 hours.

He told me yesterday he feels held hostage on his days off cause I expect him to take care of our son. And I find that upsetting because I’m like I NEVER get a break! He’s upset about a few hours on his day off??

I expect him to be a parent??

Why does he feel held hostage??

Edit: my job had a recent spike in hours because someone quit w/no notice. Which sent everyone into a scramble to distribute her work load. So I suddenly got a backlog of 20 hrs of work I had to sort into “done, working on, never started” and do a lot of things. So the last two of his days off I was catching up someone’s former workload that wasn’t up-to-date.