40 weeks pregnant and husband giving me the silet treatment
I’m currently 40 weeks 5 days pregnant and I’m due to be induced this Friday. My dad flew into town to help me out since my husband still has to work until my induction day. My dads going to be staying with us until a few days after baby arrives to help with our other children.
Backstory, husband has BPD but is treating it with meds. Today while he was at work he called to check up on me as always and everything was good. Later in the day he text me to tell me he had a stuffy nose and to pick him up some day quil so he could have it when he got home. So I did that. Tonight we were supposed to go out on a date (which we never get to do because mine and his entire family live out of state so we never have anyone to babysit our kids). We planned this last week so when he got home I was super excited and getting ready to go. I gave him the day quill I bought and he took it from me and said nothing then proceeded to sit down on the couch and give me the silent treatment. For two hours. My dad was asking him questions too and he was being very short and rude with him and it was so embarrassing. After about three hours of this I ask him if he’s ready to go and says yes but in a very short tone. We don’t end up leaving for another 30 minutes because he’s just scrolling Facebook. We eventually leave and get in the car to drive to the destination (about 40 mins away) and he gives me the silent treatment almost the entire way until I say something. I keep asking him what’s wrong he keeps saying nothing is wrong when it obviously is. I ask him to please try to have fun since we never get to go on dates alone and tbh our marriage really needs him. I remind him we won’t be able to do this again since baby gets here in two day and his response is “and?”. At this point I end up crying because I have no idea what to do and ask him to just turn around and go home because there’s no point in continuing if he doesn’t want to be there. We get home and he plops himself down on the couch and talks to no one. The tension in the room is palpable so I apologize to my dad and go to bed early. It’s been three hours and my husband never came to bed so I went to check where he was and he’s asleep on the floor of our living room with no pillow or blanket right next to where my dads bed is set up. Like wtf is he even doing or what point is he trying to prove. I’m trying so hard not to let this get to me but he’s supposed to be my birth partner in two days and the last thing I want is him acting like this in the delivery room. Just for clarification he took the DayQuil and hasn’t displayed any symptoms of obvious sickness so I really don’t think he’s acting like this because he’s “sick”. What would you do in my situation? I’m so embarrassed to have my dad hear to witness this crap.
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