No kids wedding? How does this work?

Hellllllooooo!

So my partner and I are soon to be engaged(don’t know when or where but I know soon 😂). Last year when I was pregnant I had a baby shower, I didn’t know that no kid events were a thing and I wish I did that because the kids ruined my shower, and now that we will be having a wedding I’m not sure how this works. Is it wrong for me to bring my daughter because i know she can/will behave with her nana? Or if it’s no kids then that means not even my own?