Inability to lose weight

Let me start by saying Im a fat girl born to a skinny perfect mom. Lol. I’m 230 lbs at 22 years old with two kids. The smallest I’ve ever been since I was 14 years old and started birth control (nexplanon) due to extremely bad periods is 160lbs. I’ve been on the bigger side ever since. My weight went up and I started maintaining about the same weight when I was 18 Ive stayed between 200-220 I do blame the birth control for me gaining weight as it increased my appetite a LOT but once I graduated highschool my eating habits became extremely better I work so much I only eat one good meal a day with maybe 1-2 light snacks and it’s been like that for YEARS now lol. During both of my pregnancies I got up to 250 (I just had my second child 2 months ago) and the first time I went back to 220 within a few months and I expect I’ll be back there soon again. I just don’t get it I’ve tried everything I eat less, I go to the gym and work out with friends and get no results it’s so depressing. I plan meals that fit my lifestyle I love fruits and veggies, I work all day and then proceed to chase a toddler around, I don’t eat and half the time I’m awake I’m STARVING and ignoring it not because I don’t want to eat but because I already can’t lose weight no matter what I do I’d hate to gain some more 😂 if you’ve made it this far into my sob story then I guess my question for this group is do I seek a doctor? Who do I go for help since I obviously can’t do it myself? Do I need to pay for a personal trainer? Where do I even start if nothing else is working it has to be medical right? I hate how people look at me. They assume I’m just fat and lazy they say eat less and do more like I don’t already eat once a day 🥲. I hate that I can’t even chase my toddler around without feeling like I’ve run a marathon I’d feel so much better if I could just lose something and know that all my hard work and effort is for something. I’ve been considered “fat” my whole life even when I was 160. I just want to be the person in my head lol