Emotional Independence

hey girlies,

Ive just gotten out of a relationship (4 months ago) and tbh it was pretty toxic. from both sides, we were toxic for each other. theres love there tho. I am more on the open minded side, ambivert and overall just living life. my ex is more reserved and conservative and prefers to be on the loner side of life. thats not a problem obviously but in the long run our lives became a problem for eachother.

i am not typically the type of person who depends on anyone. i prefer to open my own jar of pickles rather than ask for help. i am not a big fan of physical touch either. however, he is. i do keep my walls up a lot due to past trauma but i did work on it during the relationship and still am now. i opened up to him a lot and i became emotionally dependent. (side note, there was light emotional abuse in the relationship)

We see each other from time to time now, all friendly. we do talk almost everyday. this is because we are each others closest person outside of relationships too. my issue is, sometimes i feel sad bc i miss him and even if he makes me feel like shit i still have love. i know its bc i’m dependent on him since he makes me feel somewhat safe. so i was wondering if any of you have an ex that you were dependent on and how you over came that. i am not looking to block him so i don’t want those kind of advice, please.

but any advice is greatly appreciated. thank you<3