My partner never wants to have sex

Me and my boyfriend have a issue. I want sex 97% of the time and he doesn’t. It’s at the point if I don’t ask for sex , we won’t have it. I’m lucky if he is turned on in the morning and wants to have sex but if we do he’ll be good for a week or more. I do my part and I start sex I try being touchy and kissy and even ask for it but he acts like it’s a job or that I’m weird for asking to do it as often as I do. I ask every other day or every day because when we do it , it’s only the most 3 minutes and he’s done and he gets off and that’s it he doesn’t foreplay and when I try to get him to like finger me he only does it for 2 minutes and says “my hands hurting” he will make promises like “we’re gonna have sex tonight I promise” and he ends up going to sleep 😴 or he can’t stay hard for me he goes soft. On occasions he has pint in his google history, not every day not often ether but when I notice he’s home by himself. One morning I was asleep though and I felt movement next to me and when I turned around I naturally just grabbed his dick and he was hard like rock hard and we had sex but he finished like in a minute and a few days later I googled something on his phone and porn came up and so I check the date he looked it up and it was that same date/time I was asleep right before he got hard. It’s pathetic how insecure I am over porn , I allow it to make me feel so ashamed of myself but that’s because he’s willing to go out his way and watch that but doesn’t seem the slightest bit interested in sex with me. He isn’t even touchy he won’t grab on my boobs or my ass or hold my thigh or make out with me or kiss me like he just holds my hands or gives me a quick peck on the lips. He doesn’t talk spicy with me. I’m chubby and I know I should take care of myself more but my ex was always grabbing me , feeling on me , foreplaying and trying to have sex daily or twice a day at least a few times a week 😒 I’m only 25 and my boyfriend is 34 going to be 35 in June and I am not sure if the age difference plays a big factor but I’m just like so hurt because I have needs and those needs are being unmet and I have talk to him about this and how I feel , same thing I am typing now if not more and he just says oh my god or says “I’m trying”. It makes me question like yes I do love him but do I want to be sexually unsatisfied the rest of my life? Is that healthy? I don’t know