Feels like I’m drowning

Guys I think this is more of a gent post. I have 2u2 and just feel like I’m totally drowning. I’m on my own 99% of the time, my husband works 60 hours a week, like lots of our spouses. My kids are 2 and 10 months now. Things are out of control. Nap time is a disaster. They share a room. No one naps. The baby is getting all screwed up bc my 2 year old freaks out when we go in or out. My 2 year old doesn’t listen at all. I am at my wits end. I don’t have outside help and don’t have that option. What am I supposed to do. I just want a glass of wine but then I’ll be even more tired. I love my kids more than anything. But my cup is beyond empty right now. Anyone else!?