I’m I wrong for not wanting to spice it up? Read below

I am OK with spicing it up in the bedroom for my husband. Meaning watching porn or using toys and that’s it. But tonight he walked up to me and said, “babe let’s spice it up” and I said “well I thought we were doing that already”. he says “no I want bring another man into the bedroom for me to play with.” I told him no he’s upset. For one I’m not ok with bring another person into our sex life. I also am not ok with seeing my husband fuck another man. He says he’s not bi or gay but he wants to dominate the man. He doesn’t want the man to touch me and that he wants me to watch. Also use no protection as we would find a clean man willing to go to the clinic to get a rapid hiv test. I’m so livid and grossed out by him. I left and I am currently sitting in the car in the driveway just in disbelief.