Mother in law OUT OF CONTROL (venting, please read)

I posted here about my psycho MIL and her offensive Facebook posts and boundary breaking the other day. (If you didn’t see it, it’s the one about her saying I’m only needed for 12 months for my boobs).

Anyway! She’s back at it again!!!! After talking with my husband, and discussing boundaries, and trying to communicate how upset she has made me I really thought we were on the same page.

But no. MIL is STILL trying to over cater for our son when we go to our home state for a wedding. My baby will be 8 weeks old when we go, and I am staying with my sister. My husband has made this abundantly clear for her, and I know he has because I’ve seen the messages.

My sister has organised car seat, portacot and pram for me as I’ll be with her 99% of my time while travelling, so it just made more sense. Plus MIL and I don’t speak, so it wouldn’t make sense for me, THE MOTHER OF THE BABY, to rely on her.

Yet MIL is still trying to buy these items. She has been messaging my husband HEAPS about buying stuff, and my husband has told her these items are sorted. She’s already attempted the emotional manipulation “I thought everyone was going to help” bullshit after he told her it’s been sorted.

MIL has now told my husband not to pack clothes for my baby, and that SHE will buy all his clothes. I’m not comfortable with this. I strongly believe this is a control tactic. We have told her we aren’t staying there, we have told her who we are staying with, why the fuck would I rely on her for MY SONS entire wardrobe.

The way she is speaking to my husband, is acting as if our baby doesn’t have his own mother. She keeps trying to over compensate to gain control over us, and drag us to her place. The reason I’m super frustrated again, is because I told my husband please, respect my boundaries with her. He said he will.

Then today we text about packing, and I was explaining what bags I’m bringing etc. he sends me a text saying this:

“Mum said she's going to get clothes for him so we just have to bring the essentials with us”

Just no. Why can’t my husband just fucken listen for more than 2 seconds. I don’t want to not pack CLOTHES for our newborn son. Reason being, is that she might buy clothes too big or too small, and we will be fucked sideways if we get there and he has nothing to wear. Also, she buys everything second hand off of public forums like gum tree and Facebook.

I don’t like second hand clothes unless they are from family members. I also don’t like her style, and don’t want her being in control of what we dress him in. She even bought 2nd hand reusable nappies. 🤮 I don’t want 2nd hand shit rags, and we are NOT using reusables anyway.

Anyone else still suffering with their MIL? I’ve blocked her on absolutely everything, and her entire toxic side of the family. I’m not stopping her from having a relo with our son, I just don’t want her acting like the primary carer. My husband and I are the parents of this baby, and we are the primary carers.

Please don’t comment negative BS saying she’s nice. I can screenshot my other post and put it in the comments if you need a better understanding of how fucked up she is.