So fed up

My husband is American. I am not. I moved to the US when i was 12. A while back my i saw my husband’s dm to another lady from the same country as me, msg read “you are very beautiful”in my native language. The lady popular in the beauty industry. I thought it was disrespectful and thirsty of my husband especially because ive actually met her before and he hasnt. I let it go. Months passed and my husband would compare me to her or bring her up a little too often for my taste and he compared me to go in arguments only. Ive lost it each time he has done that and he calls me insecure. We argued once and he said, i bet (insert name) doesnt talk to her husband like that. Or i admire her accomplishments, she has a bmw and a nice house and proceeded to tell me what’s holding me back in life?. The other we startes talking about something and i saw an opportunity to try to explain to him how i feel and how hurtful it is. I also told him about the msg i saw, he then gets very upset and tells me what he meant by the msg. I told him thats not how you use that phrase. He then says he is American and that he is going to speak differently from a native. I told him its still wrong because he says he was just complimenting what she was doing or wearing like “thats beautiful” but again and again i tell him thats not how the phrase is used. He keeps saying he is American and will always speak different, i thought that was so disgusting and a poor excuse. He keeps saying how no one has corrected him, and i told him it’s because he is a foreigner people just let it be but it’s wrong.