Am I dumb for moving out?

Question

I’m currently 31 weeks pregnant me and the father are not together. I was forced to move in with my mom because at the time I didn’t make enough to pay for my own place. Now I’m able to afford my own place and I’m moving into my own apartment and my mom is upset with me because she wants to help me with the baby and she says I’m not smart for moving out because she won’t be able to help as much. I understand but I don’t feel comfortable living with her and having a baby I really feel like I need my own space because my family is very toxic. Am I wrong for wanting that? It’s very hard because I don’t have much support. I will be on a tight budget but I am planning on going back to work a month after I have her I will have to find some way to work because I have to pay bills either way. My mom also doesn’t let me live with her for free I have to pay rent.

Answer

I think it’s better to have your own space. I think I’m it’s own way it will create less stress. Of course you’ll have the stress of making sure bills are payed and what not but speaking from experience it’s best to just have your own space. It’ll be tough but you can do it!

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If you can afford to move out and pay for childcare, or have someone else you trust with your baby, then go for it! Being around toxic family is not good for your mental health and will affect your baby, only stay as a last resort.

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Nope. Of your family is toxic I would def move out but it’s not just that you and baby will need your own space. It may be a little harder but I think you’ll be glad you made the decision to move later. ♥️ Good luck with everything

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I do think you should move out if that’s what you feel is best. Toxic people take a toll on you. But that being said, is now the right time? Going back to work a month after your baby is born will
Not be easy. Have you already priced out childcare?
I’m 16 weeks pp with my second. I very much needed help the first five weeks with both babies. Is your mom toxic or just others in the household?

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If your family is toxic you are better off being on your own in your own space. Your mom can always come over when YOU need her for help. Best of luck to you!

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You still don’t know what kind of birth your going to be having. No one ever actually does. You can plan your best plan but sometimes mother nature has other plans for you and baby. If you have a c section you will need a ton of help in the beginning and won’t even be able to work possibly a month afterwards.

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Never second guess yourself for putting your well-being first.

Am I dumb for moving out?

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