am i wrong? he called me a bitch. i can’t do everything.

PLEASE I BEG YOU TO READ THIS. it’s long but i really need help/advice PLEASE!!

my fiancé father of my 2 kids and one on the way (currently half way!) runs his own business. i am so so proud of him and i try to be as supportive as i can. i post his ads for him. i respond to people for him. i send him screenshots if i don’t know how to respond. i always told him he can do it. but i also have my own things…

i am a stay at home mom that’s pregnant with our third baby and i have a 4 year old (that i will be homeschooling) and a 1.5 year old. i live in a four bedroom home. so as you can imagine there’s lots to do. i am completely exhausted. my fiancé works literally every.single.day. literally 7 days a week, majority of days (besides the odd day) he is home after the kids are in bed. he smokes weed. and we hardly spend time together. i have expressed this to him and he says all we do is spend time together. but all we do is watch tv and whenever i try to talk to him half the time he ignores me or says he just doesn’t want to talk he’s tired. i want to spend real quality time.

i told him he can’t be working everyday i’m exhausted and i need to have quality time with him and so do the kids. he thinks his job is to provide. also, he leaves a mess all the time. his dirty clothes are literally all over the house. i stopped picking them up, but my ocd is killing me. i told him whatever isn’t in the hamper i will not be washing. i know when it comes the day he doesn’t have clothes he will just grab everything so i wash it and then do the same thing again. it’s frustrating. i think i want to tell him to do his own laundry from now on. right now currently there is a sock and pants and a shirt literally RIGHT BESIDE a dirty clothes hamper in the hallway, socks and underwear by his bedside on the floor, in the washroom there is two shirts on the counter, some underwear and socks and a shirt by the toilet, socks and shirts thrown by the tub, and his work clothes in the middle of the washroom floor. downstairs there is socks and a shirt and pants by the couch. he left his dinner plate on the table with food on it last night and the ketchup out. oh and for 3 days i have asked him to take out the garbage and he hasn’t. so there’s a giant back full of garbage in the middle of my kitchen.

i have been crying a lot. i’m overwhelmed. i’m trying so hard to keep the house clean and keep up with laundry and cooking. but i don’t even feel like it i’m completely drained.

because of all of this we aren’t having sex. because of me. i just don’t want to. i’m not attracted to him almost cause of this. idk if that’s normal? i don’t even want to kiss him. i don’t feel happy/excited when he’s home like i used to. i feel like our relationship is falling apart.

am i wrong? what would you do honestly? please help a girl out!!

last night again, i was trying to explain how i feel while crying and he got mad at me said all i do is bitch and complain and act like the work is ending all the time. we haven’t talked since then. he’s tried to talk to me and i ignored him. i don’t want to be treated this way.