Narcissistic FIL

Hi everyone.

I wanted advice on how to support my husband while he is finally discovered his father is a narcissist. My husband always made excuses for his bad behavior- he’s traditional, he’s old fashioned, and the good old he was abused by his mother so that’s why he behaves the way he does. I’m so happy my husband has opened his eyes but also I am extremely worried for him. In the past, he’s never really expressed anger too much and I can see he feels angry but he won’t admit to it. He says he accepts his father is a narcissist but I feel like he’s still processing everything. I’m trying to be supportive and am encouraging him to see a therapist without being pushy. What else can I do? His father is an awful human being. Period. I don’t want to get into details but he’s extremely manipulative and causes chaos left & right. He’s wrecked havoc in our marital life from trying to control when we were having children, where we live, what type of car we got and causing so much chaos when I had a high risk pregnancy.

Advice on how to support my husband

Edit: my husband is not at a place where he can cut ties because that would include his mother. My FIL manipulates my MIL into giving him all the information he needs and abuses her constantly. He’s a horrible man. He verbally, emotion and financially abuses her to get his kids to listen to him.