Men am i wrong for feeling this way?? Just so f*Kin tired of this

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So me & my bf have been together 8 years once I got pregnant my bf said he would stop going out . He basically hasn’t and when I tell him about him to stop going out he throws in my face how he works hard he pays for all our bills and how no one is going to tell him what to do. My daughter is going to be 4 and he does this and goes out and sometimes not come home till the next morning. I would think he would have changed and hasn’t. My daughter says that he’s always working which he works 2 jobs but he never has prioritized spending time with me or her and it’s only on his time. He told me yesterday how it breaks his heart that she says that but I told him she’s noticing everything . She has even seen him come in the next morning drunk Asf and I don’t want this life anymore. I would rather struggle to be a single mom then for me and my daughter to be living this life while he’s just working and acting like a single guy. Today was his day off and my daughter went to Disneyland with my mom for half the day she was back by 1 and by 3 my bf said he was going to his friends house to watch the football games so then by 6 he picked me and my daughter up and got her ice cream and basically dropped us off so he can go watch more football ball with his friend. He had asked me if he can go knowing that he has work tomorrow I said ok but no he’s not even back home nor answering my calls idk why I’m so stupid and still dealing with this bullshit and he says any girl would want to be in my shoes to be a SAHM and have everything (pills paid, and do things). I don’t go out with friend nor come home till the next day and he thinks it’s ok it’s not a big deal. Everyone from family to friends have noticed this and know it’s not ok when I tell him he says I don’t care I’m a grown ass man and will do what I want. 
I’m alreDy looking for jobs and looking for info to put my daughter in school. Our car is under my moms name and my name but my boyfriend pays for it but he thinks the day I leave he’s entitled for it but yet doesn’t have his name on the car anywhere

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Simply paying bills isnt being a father or partner. Would he agree to couples counseling?

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People don't change over night.
And for anyone who might read this and think their partner will change over night when they give birth, let this story sink in please. Because it's not the first I've seen stating "He said he would stop when baby was here".
And no, you're not wrong for feeling this way at all. No, people won't be happy to have a partner who doesn't care and is never home. That's not what you wish for when you start a family obviously.
I hope you can get away soon 🙏

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Don’t think you’re wrong! But did you want him to stop going out completely? That part might be a bit unreasonable if that was the case. I can tell this isn’t your first or second time telling him to prioritize you guys so it is tiring, if you’ve expressed how you feel on multiple occasions and he still isn’t willing to change then I would agree you leave as well. I kind of feel like he holds the whole SAHM thing against you from what you’ve said which isn’t ok because a lot of men go on a power trip with that, if he feels like somebody else would be more than happy then he should find somebody else. As far as the car they don’t care who paid what, it’s all about who’s name it’s in so you’re safe! Just continue looking for options so you can stand on your own two feet ❤️

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I think that him saying he could do whatever he wants is a huge red flag and I definitely would leave the relationship it’s not serving you I think or him in any way there’s no love there’s no time to spend with each other there’s no prioritizing your daughter there’s nothing that serves either of you I feel like in a relationship or a marriage you know there should be love there should be you know spending time with each other and making time for each other which is really important which is making time for the kids making time for your relationship with your spouse if there’s none of that I definitely would consider leaving and it makes it even worse that he talks like that if he wants to  be single then go ahead￼,You could definitely do without a man like that if I even wanna call him a man let’s call him a boy.

Men am i wrong for feeling this way?? Just so f*Kin tired of this

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