What is up with in-laws??

I married into a family where my in-laws could not care less about me and they make it clear. For instance, I walk in with my daughter, they greet my child, don’t talk to me other than to ask where my husband is, then once he walks in they ask how he is and all. I’d love to say this is new behavior, but not at all. I even tested it to see how long it would take for someone to acknowledge me directly while I was in the same room with everyone. TWO HOURS! Two hours to even just say hello! I thought they cared when we were dating, but come to find out it was just because they didn’t want their son to marry me. Once we were married it was as though I didn’t exist. Christmas gifts for my husband and daughter. Not me. Birthday celebrations for all, but just conveniently forgot mine. Always know what’s going on in everyone’s lives and yet never seem to ask about anything with mine. They care so much for my husband and my kids which I am grateful for, but geez, what more could they want from me? I work full time to support their son while he goes to school? Set aside everything so he can pursue his dreams? Raise a family and take care of the home? Am an equal partner to their son? Like seriously?

Sorry all, I am able to handle it well most of the time, it is what it is, but I’m pregnant and hormonal today and pissed. I started a new job this week that they knew about, was super sick which they knew about, and nothing. Not even a “how are you?” I’m so done. I always ask how they are and help when I can. Heck I was the one that came up with the mother’s and Father’s Day gifts for both of them this year and it was PERFECT! I didn’t want a thank you of course because I love giving gifts, but at least try to have some kind of relationship with me when I try to make it clear that I care. I’m apart of your family whether you like it or not and there is nothing wrong with me….I hate being apart of a family that makes it so clear how little they care for me as a person…..

Also, definitely not saying all are this way, my family has just bad luck with in laws. My mom and my sister have the same issues (and worse).

I have somewhat mentioned the difficulties and the change was my mother in law randomly mentioning how she is a bad mother in law, but nothing else has changed. I just decided since my husband doesn’t want to do anything (because he swears up and down it’s not what I think it is despite my MIL saying she doesn’t like me) that I will just suck it up until we move away next year.