My husband and I are getting a divorce due to him treating me like complete shit for 8 years. Cheating, lying, betrayal of every kind. You name it. He works out of state and has for awhile now. Which leaves me feeling so depleted because I am the one who does every single thing for the kids and the dogs, the house, the bills every single thing all while he sits on his ass in a hotel room texting/calling some other woman and taking her out on dates using our money. He doesn’t call and check on our kids. They’re 3 and 5. He told me the other day that if they ever wanna talk to him to let him know. How shitty is that? The relationship is not on them, it’s on you the grown ass male. He hasn’t seen them in over a month. The last time he FaceTime them was when he was with me 2 weeks ago. When I asked for the divorce. The kids are used to going long stretches without him so it doesn’t seem like they are minding, but eventually they will. I know I can’t control or baby their relationship with their dad. Our relationship will be great bc I’m with them daily. That’ll be something he’ll have to answer to later on. But how can you just not care about your kids? Know how they are and what they’re doing. I’ll be the one taking them trick or treating alone. I guess I’m just annoyed because I feel so exhausted and burnt out and I have no breaks, he won’t even have them 50/50. The only person that can really help is his mom and she’s 400 miles away.