I always make sure to keep my husband in the loop with things. Like, “hey on Wednesday I’m going to go out with so and so for a play date” or “I’m going to the store” or anything just so he knows.

My husband tells me when I ask “hey where you going?” Like this morning, we were all having breakfast and he says he’s going to get washed up. I asked why he was getting washed? He said “well why not?”

Then he comes out all dressed in a suit and I asked what he was doing. He tells me “I’m going to church” and I told him “oh? You didn’t tell me that’s what you were doing.” I’m not at all upset about him going to church, it’s not the reason for going anywhere, it that he doesn’t tell me until right before. Like what if I was going to do something like idk something that didn’t involve kids. I rarely get to out of the house that doesn’t have the kids in tow. I’ve tried explaining mental load to him and the need for communication. He thinks I’m making it up. He doesn’t see the big deal with not keeping me in the loop. That I have to kind of mentally prepare for not having an extra set of hands on days he’s home. I do it all week by myself so I’m totally capable.

I just wish he’d be on oats with letting me know things. He doesn’t have to tell me Every time he’s going to pee but if he’s going to walk away to the bathroom for an hour to read. It would be nice to know. I can’t remember the last time I pee’d or pooped without a child in the bathroom with me. 🤣

I can’t go to church with him because they don’t have a nursery for our kids & baby. It’s a lot of work for me to keep them occupied and quiet during service.