“How you feeling”

For moms who have experienced infant loss how do you respond? I am not trying to sound like a bitch but I am getting so fed up with people asking “how are you feeling?” I had a healthy pregnancy, induced at 39 weeks, unmedicated 12 hour labor, first time mom, and with no explanation my baby just did not make it. We just had his services yesterday. I had to bury my baby boy. How do you think I feel? I am not okay. My heart is shattered. My mind is everywhere. My spirit feels so uneasy. I feel defeated. Is that what people want to hear?