custody (updated with messages )
^^ him outside my house for Who knows How long he was already there when I got home . he was screaming & yelling about me spending time with my other mommy friends , something I haven’t done since my daughter was 6 months .
okay sooo long story short i was with my ex for 4 years got pregnant as a teen my baby is almost 2 . I left him bc his drinking was causing issues , we had domestic violence issues , a whole bunch of issues . he’s broke into my house , has sat outside of my house for hours to intimidate me & he just makes me uncomfortable, since being on probation for DUI & wrecking he can not drive . i got rear ended 2 weeks ago & use my moms car to get around . He wants to take me to court bc this past 2 weeks i haven’t been able to bring her to him bc i have no vehicle. i told him he could uber & he told me “he’d be more comfortable walking with her up the highway “ . i don’t want to sound bitter but he doesn’t deserve even 50/50 . He does financially take care of her but there’s times when if me & him are cool he will go without caring , checking or supporting her . i’m so tired of him the threatening me with taking her . he tells me i’m a bad mom but i have my own 3bd house at 19 . I work very hard . my daugher is MORE than healthy & has WAY more than she could ever want . even when he was breaking into my house i’ve never kept his kid away . now all the sudden i tell him i can’t drive & since he can’t he’s need to uber “gods got me & he’s taking me to court “ .Part of me wants him to get 50/50 but then I get worried , if he’s comfortable suggesting walking up the interstate with her it makes me feel like he doesn’t realize how unsafe that is . he says i don’t share his values & it’s his kid bc my daughter had milk tongue & he wanted this random man to blow down her throat to fix it . idk it’s a lot of things that are off putting about why he thinks is safe & not . he also has a one bedroom with a apartment full of college students which worries me . his drinking worries me . his mental health worries me . i want him to see her I would never take that I want him to be healed accountable when he cancelss getting her for the club but 50/50 is just to much . what should I do ? any recommendations? i don’t mind him getting some custody but 50/50 is a lot for him to to have her when he’s never had her more than 4 hours ..
another occasion below he sat knocking & SCREAMING at my door for HOURS I recited thru the peep hole . he was saying he wanted to talk but due to how toxic things were I had been going no contact & having my mom mediate & bring baby to him every other day.
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