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So pack everything back up in your car and leave it on her porch with a letter say thanks but no thanks love ya
I feel like screaming
We’ve had issues with mil adhering to boundaries since I got pregnant with my first. I also acknowledge my husband is part of the problem bc he’s always too nice & is never firm with her. My mil won’t stop buying my kids stuff. I’m assuming it’s her love language, cool, but it’s fucking excessive, especially considering we rent our house from her and she won’t fix shit (including my son’s room which doesn’t have heat so we are forced to use a heater fan). I’ve put thousands into this house bc she won’t fix stuff & I’m just done bc we are ready to find our own house now. She’ll do stuff like ask what clothes the kids need. I’ll tell her they don’t really need anything but if she wants, she can get my oldest some leggings. Within the next week 20 PAIRS of leggings were delivered to my house.
Just now I remembered she said that she brought toys over for Christmas when I wasn’t home. So I went in the basement to look & even tho I heard my husband tell her multiple times to stop buying things, I found 32 fucking toys in my basement. My toddlers are only 15 months apart & do not need all that. I live in a small home. I have no room for all of them. I feel like scream crying right now because she won’t just fucking listen.
ETA my husband won’t donate bc he things it’s rude + mil specifically asks to see them playing with those toys on FaceTime.
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You absolutely can donate! When she asks, tell her why. She’ll learn to quit wasting her money hopefully. My husband wouldn’t deal with his mom buying toys with our first, so I handled it. Now she only buys toys for birthdays and holidays. I let her know it was disrespectful for her to continue buying things when we’ve said not to. If she wants to buy stuff and junk up her hous, that’s her business, but she won’t be junking up my house.
It isnt your money so why not just donate them to toys for tots or shelters or churches? I mean it's annoying, but in the grand scheme of MIL problems I would totally trade ya LOL. This is easily resolveable with just stuffing things a bag in your trunk and hauling it elsewhere.
Mo
Per you edit....so let them play with the new stuff on face time then donate them next month, and go ahead and donate the ridiculous amount of toys they got last month or prior. Dont even tell him, just do it while hes gone, if they still have a lot of stuff afterwards I doubt he will even notice. Repeat monthly or every 2 months and that should keep things under control as far as drowning in stuff. If you cant/dont drive or too hard with the kids to drop by a Goodwill or (better charity cuz Goodwill sucks), then post a bag full of free almost-new toys or 10 pairs of new leggings on a local facebook group for mom and leave it on your porch, they will be gone very quickly. Im just trying to be solution focused because resolving the source of the problem apparently wont happen even if it should by principle of the matter of respecting boundaries. And you can even turn this annoyance it into a positive by giving to other families who will be thrilled to have these things. Another tip, we got storage bins with lids for our toys, they stack upwards. So they only get 1 bin at a time to prevent toys strewn all over, then pick up to get another bin. So get 4 or 5 bins for the good toys they like, and the rest is bye-bye.
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