Learning Myself After Divorce

So I’m going to start this out by saying my soon to be ex husband left me for an 18yo high schooler. And the 5 years of our relationship we had very vanilla basic sex (or what HE wanted). Very narcissistic person and I lost who I was. But now I’m working on finding her…

All that being said, I KNOW I like hair pulling and biting but that’s about all I know. I’ve recently started talking to someone who is open to helping me grow and figure out who I am. Where should we start? 😬