Am I wrong for being like this?

Question

My husband and I have two kids together 
He has no job right now so we have been home together with the kids 
He watches them here and there but while I’m doing stuff, cleaning, laundry, cooking, dishes, working out.
I also watch them and do all of those things when he’s taking a nap or at the gym.
I haven’t been in the mood for sex bc I’ve been so exhausted.
The kids are down for bed and he got mad bc I didn’t wanna have sex with him. I’m drained & I asked him to wash the dishes before they went to bed…. Dishes are still there. 
Also, I have to always ask to do things and he doesn’t cook, clean, do the dishes/bottles, laundry, I hang them, take them down, fold them and put them away. 
He said “I’m just gonna find someone that wants to have sex with me then” but that didn’t even hurt me. I said “ok? Bye” lol 
I’m also going through PPD 
2year old and 7 month old..
I don’t have time to myself other than the 1hr workouts or shorter. My identity is mom. That’s it.

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No offence, but all he sees you as I as maid and a prostitute/sex doll. Does he ever show intimacy?

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So at first I was going to say that if he's so upset about not getting sex then you should tell him either get a damn job or actually man up and help out around the house. And then I read what he said. If it were me, he and all his shit would have been right out the door as SOON as he said that. Seriously telling you to your face that he is going to go out and cheat on you because you're too exhausted to want to have sex with him? Absolutely not 😤

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Most women disagree with me on this but I think partners do need to connect sexually and otherwise, and it's unreasonable expect our partner to go weeks and weeks of no sex unless theres a reason eg health issue, grieving etc. That said, you are struggling and hes not being a good partner...and that comment was unacceptable. Especially if hes home too, he needs to help out more. Normally I would say that the 2 of you need to go over a concrete system of chores and watching the kids, because he may legitimately feel like he is helping you just by watching them and youre not really objecting otherwise, youre just doing it all and then youre too exhausted to be a partner vs being mommy and housekeeper. Going over a more equal distribution of labor may help. Like not just 'help more' but actually divvy it out by who does which chores on which days. But that comment? I dont even know what to say about that 🥴

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Yeah that comment would be enough for me, you're already caring for two children and him, I think you'd be happier without him.

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Um, yeah,  no. I'm not pro divorce,  if yall are married,  but id be leaving all his things in a pile and just be straight with him.  
You're already taking care of two actual CHILDREN.  He is not a child,  and if he's Goin to act like he should be treated like one while he's a GROWN MAN,  tell him to go move back in with his momma. 
That doesn't sound like a man that cares much about his family or being fare with the mutual work load that comes with choosing to have a family. Take care of your kids and tell him to get off his butt and help more,  especially right now while he ain't even got a job to contribute to the house.  
I'm so sorry you're having to deal with all that with ppd. Been there,  and I'm sending you a prayer tonight.

Am I wrong for being like this?

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