My husband ruined his own birthday

Today is my husband’s 29th birthday .I had to work he had to work as well. I had a small surprise candlelight dinner for the two of us planned. He mentioned he wish he had the day off. He was kinda upset about it but he went anyway . He started texting me today in rage about nonsense and telling me I could leave and go. This behavior happens almost twice a month I’m so sick of it. It’s like he is bipolar. He apologizes then seek help from his parents they butter me up. I take him back. I am so irritated and tired of dealing with how he treats me over nonsense. I need some advice