Breastfeeding question

I have to pump before I feed my daughter because I’m engorged every time she’s ready to eat. I thought it would stop shooting out & choking her but it won’t. I over pumped before & my breast were empty so she got mad & was so hungry. Thankfully I store milk but she doesn’t like bottles. It took some time but I was able to get her to drink about 2oz before trying to breastfeed again.Anyways pumping before feeding her doesn’t help. I don’t even pump as much because pumping helps with having more milk. I feed on demand. Still gets engorged. She chokes at almost every feed & I feel bad. Any advice?