My in-laws aren’t divorced but separated. They are very difficult to deal with and very rude about my husband and I even being married. Anytime my mother in law comes to visit she stays for at least 2 weeks and treats me like I am her maid while sleeping on a blow up mattress in the living room of our 1 bedroom apartment.

We are expecting our first baby this summer and she has already said she doesn’t want to be expected to come when her husband comes. However, I have already said there cannot be anyone staying at our apartment because there will be a lot of changes for my husband and I and we need to have the space to ourselves. I do not want to be stepping over her in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom or get supplies for my baby. Plus, I do not want to be bleeding from a vaginal birth (or c section) and trying to figure out breastfeeding with my new baby with someone in our very tiny space whom also expects me to cook and clean for her. She is also very opinionated and rude and I really do not want to hear her constant insults when I am trying to get adjusted to our new baby.

My mother in law has already made it very clear that she does not want to be considered a unit with her husband and should be able to visit on her own, whenever she wants.

I only get 20 paid days off work and will already have a lot of adjustments after the birth of our baby. I am so glad our families want to come and visit when our baby is born, but how can I get the point across that we are not open to having visitors for multiple weeks during my very limited time off and once everyone leaves after we have the baby that we are not open to having more visitors? Am I overreacting?