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I don't want a baby shower!!!

Je

Je

I don't want to be miserable or ungrateful but I reeeeeaaaally don't want a baby shower! 

​I know they are traditional in America but I'm in the UK and I don't particularly want to play baby games or sit in a room with women wanting to chat about babies or have people feel obliged to buy gifts or be the centre of attention. It's just not my thing at all!

​ I'm getting really anxious and stressed about it as it keeps coming up. My partners family are determined to change my mind even though I've said numerous times I don't want a shower. I'd much rather people visit me when they want to and buy gifts if and when they want to.

Anybody else feel the same?

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Ka

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I don't like being the center focus at parties of any sort. I'm not planning on a shower, it's just not my thing. You're definitely not alone. :-)

C

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I want one really bad actually! I love talking about baby stuff with people, me and my neighbor whose ttc we can talk for a good hour or two about it.. For me it's a perfect way to celebrate my new baby coming.. And I don't mind the free gifts either, as I'm 19 In college, and although we do have enough it's gonna be tight first year or so. ​​Unfortunately I'm not having one!  Haven't told my family I'm pregnant, even now I'm closing up on 19 weeks and my close friends who know my family well too don't know!  

C

C • Sep 12, 2014
Just would get a negative response from them sense I'm not married.. That would be nice if they'd do that though!

Je

Je • Sep 12, 2014
Aww do you have personal reasons for not telling you're family? Maybe if they knew they could organise a suprise shower!

Ka

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Same here my friend had one and she sat there infront of everyone opening her gifts. It was just very cringey to watch. Plus I couldn't have my mum & dads partner there together they'd be arguing at some point. I might just get a few close friends together and go for afternoon tea :)

Li

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I'm British and also think they are horrid - just do what feels right and certainly don't let it stress you out! You are the pregnant one, you get to decide!!  

Ka

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I'm the same way & everyone thinks I'm being weird 

Er

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Having it as a co-ed thing can alleviate some of that weirdness a girlfriend if mine did that and it was much more like an ordinary party. No games. There were gifts but she gave a short intro to the effect of "I'm going to open these now, so if you want to watch, watch, if you don't, continue enjoying yourselves as you see fit." It was very low key. So maybe that could be a happy medium?

Mi

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That's why i'm not doing one,ill just do a welcome home shower for everyone to see the baby  but that's it.

Ja

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No way not doing one not my thing at all 

Re

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You're mot alone! I hate baby shower too!

Am

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I had two with my first pregnancy: a family shower thrown by my husbands mom and grandma, and a church shower that was thrown by the ladies I go to church with. I had them when I was about 7 months pregnant and loved it! I love being the center of attention, though. We played a couple games, but it was mostly eating finger foods and opening the gifts. This time, I plan on having a diaper shower, where people bring diapers and baby wipes only :) you can never have too many!
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