?? my husband is not very physical it makes me want to leave him

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He is not touchy feely he doesn't snuggle me at night or rarely at all I have to ask him to and I am very physical I need to be touched and loved on and I need sex and I have to beg him for it and then I get it maybe once a week I do every thing I can to try and turn him on but he would rather drink beer and watch tv We have only been married for like 8 month and he is 12 years older than me and we only knew each other for 5 weeks before we got married I'm so lost and lonely he doesn't even sit next to me and watch tv I'm so sad I feel like I'm dying inside I know there is love out there I just think I made a mistake and need to leave him..... I left for 2 months this summer and stayed with family I thought things would change and he would be more physical and would drink less if I left but I've been back for a month and he is the same we argue and he just doesn't seem like he cares I tell him I need more kisses and hugs and he just tells me I'm needy or says " Jesus Christ babe I give you enough love u snuggle you all the time" but he doesn't ?? please any advice I just want to be loved

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Sometimes alcohol can take the "want" right out of people.  Talk to him about quitting the alcohol and see what he says.

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You got married after a very short time together and maybe didn't have the chance to get to know eachother and eachother's needs. Have you sat down and explained to him that you want to be more intimate? Explain how he can, by drinking less and spending time with you. Give him a chance to try harder but be aware that people don't often change. I would also be worried that he is making you beg before you have sex, that sounds a little controlling and not the healthy relationship that you deserve.

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This sounds so upsetting :(. Is there anyone you can talk to close to home? A friend, pastor, mentor, even relationships hotline.  Sometimes it helps to just to talk through difficult  situations. Everyone communicates affection differently, but you still deserve to be loved and respected

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He is a lot older than you so it may be that he doesn't feel the need to be intimate so much anymore. The male sexual peak is at 18! He may think he shows you love in other ways. Just because he is not physical it may not mean he doesn't love you even though it feels very personal. I think the best thing is communication. Talk to him calmly about your needs and see if you can work something out. Ask him how he feels about you. I hope it works out for you.

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I was in a four and half year relationship, we were active in the first couple years. I would ask him to come to bed after he had a long day at work, he would fall asleep on the couch. After a break up and long conversations he will sleep in the same bed, touch my Legs etc. just have  a convo and wait it out .

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Leave him for good

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I know how you feel. I have been married a year. Moved across the country to be with him and now I feel disrespected and not appreciated. I try to be so good. I cook him dinner, clean the house and work full time. He works really hard and gets so tired. I am like you and tell him what I need. I have wanted to leave. Threatened to leave. Gone away. Come back. Somehow I finally got through. Told him calmly: I need
​You to love me. Please. Why did you marry me? 
​I finally got through. Don't play games
​Just tell him how sexy he is and you want him. Do it in the morning and get him in the shower! : )

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Talk to him in detail and explain him that it could be a hormonal demand on your side since yog guys have little age difference .. Create such environment around him .. And observe what makes him feel happy .. Do that to get him in to it ...

?? my husband is not very physical it makes me want to leave him

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