Can't plan anything.

Having testing for partners serious fertility issues. Results wont be back for 12 weeks. After that god knows how long before we start <a href="">ivf</a>. Want to get married though not engaged, feel like I wouldn't even be able to plan a wedding (I would rather plan it for a year at least in advance) because I've no idea when I might get pregnant. Could spend years ttc and going through repeat <a href="">ivf</a>. Feeling sad. Is that normal or am being a whinging cow bag..