Nasty bartholin cyst on my labia majora.

It started out pea sized, then it drained and shrunk and I thought it was gone for good. Then my boyfriend gave me some really good oral, and my whole vagina lip got swollen and red and basically hurt like a bitch for three days. The swelling went down, it shrunk a bit, but there is still what feels like a small grape sized pudding pocket located on my vagina lip. It has been about a month now, and there has been no change in size. I really don't want to have to go to the doctor, I've heard horror stories about people having to get theirs lanced and then insured catheters afterwards. My family is also out of health insurance right now, so there's that. Does anybody have any tips for how to get rid of this nuisance? I want my vagina back.