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Sara • Sat, Oct 25

I'm 11w pregnant with the most wonderful fiance, he lives in europe, I live in asia, i'm in a process of getting residence permit to move to europe. I have a sister who lives 2hr flight away , 10yrs marriage, 6 failed IVFs. While I got pregnant first month try after I got engaged (fiance comes every 2 months to visit, but wont come this month because i'm moving there anyway).

My parents are excited that i got pregnant, it's their first grandkid, not super excited abt the fact that i'm not married yet. I will be, just not in a hurry, and my fiance and I are committed to each other. I was married before, so i don't wanna rush into another one.

Anyway, told my parents I want a gender reveal party becoz i cant have baby shower (would be buying baby stuff when i move). They said ok, but then few days ago we found out my sister is coming to town to buy an apt (to invest). So now, we'll have a party to celebrate her buying an apt, and will also tell her abt my pregnancy (wanted to wait til we pass 12w). It is a touchy subject for her i know.

My parents and my sis are religious, i know she will judge me for having a baby without being married. And i'm sure if it was her that gets pregnant, my parents will be all over it.

I just feel bummed out, i have to hide the pregnancy until i move to europe, to spare my parents feelings, seems like the only ppl excited abt this pregnancy are my fiance, me and his family.

So you think it's selfish of me to want a gender reveal party to kinda celebrate my baby? Given the situation

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