Help please!

This is long....

My mother in law has officially overstepped her bounds!!

she has voiced her opinion one too many times.

She's made it clear that she likes me waaaay better than my hubby's ex, as a person.

BUT she's also stated over and over and OVER again how he should have stayed with his ex (even though they were miserable and she was a very manipulative, hateful, unfaithful person) because they have a daughter.

She also likes comparing me to herself and her other daughter in law. Both of them are very submissive towards their husbands; she believes it's the wife's job to bend over backwards to please her husband and whatever he says goes, and she should have NO part in the finances or "men's business". I'm used to being very independent, so I appreciate that my husband includes me in ALL decisions, ESPECIALLY those concerning money. She's also rather pointedly said that she's looking for a job and her other daughter in law wants to work, too, and that they like contributing. I don't work, and my husband and I both agree that's for the best.

I baby my husband by feeding him breakfast and packing him a lunch, and having dinner on the table when he gets home. I keep the house clean and laundry done. I'm there 24/7 for him so that he doesn't have to worry about anything. I make sure he's taken care of in every way. He babies me by letting me stay home and not have to worry about working as well as doing my wifey things, and taking care of paying all the bills.

He has absolutely no complaints and he's stood up for me to his mom numerous times.

She's admitted that she likes me and that I care for him, but once again, he should be with his ex for the sake of their daughter and I don't make a good wife like I should (unlike the other daughter in law, who in her opinion is the perfect example of what a wife should be).

I'm trying REALLY hard to be respectful, but I'm starting to feel completely inadequate. She's a daily part of our lives, and there is no way to avoid her or get away from her and her criticism. How should I handle this??