What's my gender?

Question

I've always been a very rounded child when growing up. Into masculine and feminine things. But I did lean towards feminine, wearing lots of frills and makeup, and playing with dolls.

Since puberty though I've had a hard time coping with my body. I really hate having boobs, but I really like boobs. And I don't necessarily consider myself a girl. But I do understand that I'm female. It's very confusing. I wish I was born male, but could still be feminine. Wearing dresses and make up. That's how I feel on the inside, but I can't show it on the outside because then I just look like a very feminine girl.

I've brought this up to a few close friends, and my mom. My friends were supportive, but my mom said I had never "shown signs" of another gender before. And it was "just a phase."

Can someone please help me figure this out?

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You do not have to identify strictly male or female. You could be genderqueer, or anywhere in the spectrum. Don't worry about labels, just do what makes you happy. ❤️^-^

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I say identify as genderfluid for a bit and take a little time to fully explore your gender identity :)

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Gender isn't "one or the other." It's a spectrum, like sexuality. I'm personally gender neutral, as I find I don't fit or feel right as either man or woman, but there's a number of other terms you can use to help describe yourself. Take your time going through what feels right, and you'll find yourself eventually. As for family/friends, just the same as any sexuality other than hetero, they can take time to accept it, accept it right off the hop, or never accept it. It's hard, but do what's best for you.

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Oh my gosh. This could be me. I've been wondering for years now if I'm trans, but I'm starting to think I'm gender fluid.

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Don't think that you have to jump in to a term right away either, research more in friendly spaces, perhaps on tumblr.
I feel like you do however, i like my breasts sometimes but others i feel odd. The rare times I got my period some days id have real bad dysphoria, and id cry about it...

I call myself genderqueer for example, i feel like im both slightly but also neither, just a special little pansexual bunny.

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We live in a society where everything has to have a label. Over in Australia they actually have "gender x" someone who doesn't identify as female, male, or transgender. I say just live your live, don't worry about labels and fall in love with who ever!

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Like others have said, gender exists on a spectrum and it's not really a physical thing. You can identify one way your whole life, but as you change and learn more about yourself, you can start to feel your identity shift, and that's perfectly okay. 
As far as how you want to present, there's nothing at all wrong with experimenting with your gender identity. Bind your chest, dress how you want. Change it the next week or month or keep it if you like it. Do what makes you feel the most comfortable. 
And look up different pronouns if he/him, she/her doesn't suit you. Google and tumblr can be great resources. (=

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what gender do you want to be? intensely examining the past doesn't give you much useful info because it will always be subject to post hoc interpretation.

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I think you are a guy who is into feminine things.

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Google "Raising my rainbow". CJ's story may resonate with you.

What's my gender?

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