2nd time labour Q

Just • 2 girls & baby girl no3 on her way 😘
What was your labour like compared to your first? 
My first was quite traumatic due to being young, tired and the tore I got from crowing. I didn't use pain meds even though it was a back labour and lasted 26 hours. 
Did you you find you was more in control the second time? Because I felt the first time the midwifes just told me what to do and I didn't get to have a water birth (midwife said it was occupied which I later found was a lie she just couldn't be bothered doing a room transfer).