Happy Thanksgiving! Also am I a jerk?

Question

Fertile week and we are traveling for the holiday, but we tried to sneak in some bding and...he couldn't perform. Is it ok if I am upset? Am I a horrible person if I feel a little irritated that after all the temp, cm and ovulation checks I do on the daily, doc visits, twws and obsessive peeing on sticks,  he couldn't at least show up and finish? I mean, he has one job here in the TTC journey, right?!? I feel a little sheepish posting this on a day of gratitude, btw.

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I think us girls put too much pressure on them in our fertile week. They don't need to know all the stuff we do. Get him excited. Don't make him feel like it's a job!

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Put yourself in his shoes and ask how you would feel about the situation. My husband and I are having a hard time ourselves TTC and sometimes he puts too much pressure on himself and that leads to performance problems but I'd never get mad at him for it, yes it's disappointing but I wouldn't want to ever make him feel like he's the problem that's far too much pressure for anyone to take.

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Eh. Kind of jerkish.

I'm sure he feels a lot of your stress, and that can effect his "member". Try not to be too hard on him... I'm sure he wants it just as bad as you do..... And wants you to experience it even more.

I know it's tough. But sometimes, it just doesn't happen. Try and have a little more patience with him. I'm sure it doesn't make him feel fantastic that he couldn't arrive, either.

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I get upset too. After all I do from temping,opk's, exercising,vitamens. You can't do one thing. Sometimes I wish concieveing was a one streak thing cause I would totally succeed
all on my own.lol!!!

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Lol I got so mad at my husband during our fertile week because he had a few hours off from work (works a 24 hr shift) and we tried to BD and it was pretty painful (for me not him) but I was ignoring it. But anyway, it took him a while then he goes "I'm not gonna be able to finish" I was like ARE YOU SERIOUS! Lol afterward I went and cried in the bathroom. We got to bd the next day though. Hopefully you can tomorrow!

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I would be upset too! Give him another try later on today and what I have found is helpful is to NOT talk about ovulation, pregnancy, or anything ttc. I don't even share when I'm ovulating anymore. Not that my man hasn't been able to perform, but it does not turn him on one bit to think about eggs and ovulation. I just make him think I'm extra horny for a few days. He knows we are ttc so he doesn't excesively drink or get into hot tubs. He also knows he's supposed to "do his own thing" if we haven't had sex in a few days to keep those spermies fresh. Lol

Happy Thanksgiving! Also am I a jerk?

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