Cheating... just my own thoughts.

I'm amazed by the amount of people on here who have cheated, have caught their SO cheating, or suspect it. I'm wondering, is this prevalence a new thing, or is it just less taboo or something and people talk about it more?

I think cell phones make it much easier to arrange illicit meetings and flirt, but when did trust and respect go out the window? I have a cell, I'm on it pretty much all the time... I respect my bf enough that I'd never flirt with someone else, and he feels that way toward me too.

Neither of us password protect our phones, and it makes me happy to know that. I can't imagine being with someone I didn't trust or whose phone I felt I had to snoop through.

And I've been cheated on! My ex husband left me after sneaking around for months with a "friend." But I don't bring his shitty actions into my current relationship-- it's not fair to expect less from my bf because an ex was a jerk. And my bf is in the same boat: he's been cheated on numerous times and was very skittish to begin anything but a fling. I hope this relationship will make him realize we're not all out to screw each other over. So far, so good, and I think it says a lot that we trust one another despite previous bad experiences.

Anyway, just kind of ranting. Cheating is so cruel and completely selfish... I wish it weren't so common, is all. ?