Girl I’ve been in this situation a few times, where I was the one who went “abit too hard” and also where my boyfriend has done it abit too hard.

Sometimes if there’s a playful aspect and they’re prompting you, things can come out harder than expected bc of built up emotions.

The important thing is if you realise as soon as possible that it was wrong.

If I say to my brother “I bet you won’t slap me” he will definitely go full undertaker and probably tombstone me.

But if you’re going out of your way to cause harm, or doing something consciously that you know will hurt him. Then you need to address that dynamic ASAP!

It’s common for play fighting to get to hard accidentally.

This happened to me once when my bf was hugging me tightly from behind and I’d asked him to let me go multiple times and I pinched him, he then just giggled and thought it was full joke, as he couldn’t see my face and just thought I was pretend grumpy.

So I pinched him again as I was sick with gastro and really uncomfortable at this point.

And he did the whole “why did you do that so hard” thing and “it’s never ok to hurt each other like that”.

I knew I had went too hard and their were underlying emotions. I apologised and it didn’t happened again.

So I made sure to be mindful of playfight situations and also don’t just be “playful” because he wants to, if youre mad, address shit.

❤️❤️❤️

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