Second baby?

Question

My husband and I have a little boy who will be 2 in a couple months. We are doing OK financially right now but have very little wiggle room. We always figured we would have more than one child but I don't want them to be more than 4-5 years apart in age. My brother and I are 7 years apart and didn't get along well as kids. My husband still wants another baby. I am not sure what I want. On one hand I would love to have a little girl but on the other I am not sure it is responsible of us to have another now. My husband gets upset when I say "if we have another" even though we have talked about it. If we got pregnant we would do what needs done to support the baby but I am afraid to have sex for something to go wrong and get pregnant. I don't know what to do.

Answer

As long as you and your husband truly love one another then there is nothing to worry about. The bible says that love conquers all. Life itself is given to us from God almighty,  if God allows you to get pregnant then he will along with the pregnancy give you and your husband the ability to be financially responsible for the child. Live your life without fear; fear is the absent of FAITH and is a negative energy which will suppress the atmosphere around you. God Bess you, be not afraid of ANYTHING!

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Maybe give it a year of actively trying to save or do whatever would make you feel more financially comfortable. Currently, we rent and its a 2bd, 3b. Thankfully, we have large bedrooms and I had to let my idea of 'when we get a house we'll have another baby' or 'when we free up more $ from debt', etc. Our first baby was semi-unplanned for and through the process of nine months we pulled it together. We're in a much better place now, but now have two car payments. We went back and forth and came up with a way to arrange the babies' room, a savings plan, aggressive consolidation and debt repayment plan, and (though I didn't agree with it) my husband pulled out from 401k to pay off a loan that would improve his credit score. We're always going to want more or for things to be just a bit different, but with a second baby you know what you need/can do without/use from baby#1. My first baby will be three and a half when the new baby comes. It's not what I originally wanted, but I'm so happy we did it like that. That spacing works for my family even if we don't have our house yet. There are things we can control and others we just have to accept are not the way we thought they would look, and it'll still be okay. I wish your family the best as the new year approaches!

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I know you love your husband, but as you know, having a baby is a big deal. Do it when you are ready and don't let anyone pressure you into doing anything you aren't ready for.

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My sister and I are 4 years apart and were bffs :)

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My sister and I are twins and we didn't get along growing up. I don't think age matters. Just do it when it is right for your family

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