What's "too much" time??

Question

I have a gay(male) best friend and a boyfriend . My best friend feels that I spend way too much time with my boyfriend and vise versa. I find myself having to compromise my time a lot, and then trying to also find time for myself. Of course I want to make them both happy but I feel as if my best friend doesn't fully understand or agree with me dating since he's single . My best friend gets really crabby and snappy at me whenever I say I'm going on a date with my boyfriend or doing ANYTHING with my boyfriend. My boyfriend on the other hand doesn't complain as much but at times, he does feel neglected and has told me so in a very calm, casual manner. Has anyone else had to deal with this ?? HOW do you deal with it? What exactly is too much time??

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Sounds like your best friend is insecure and jealous of your boyfriend

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If you're an adult (and he is not your parent) he needs to respect how you choose to spend your time. Best friend or not, he has to understand that at some point in your life you will find your partner and then he will go from being the most important person in your life and move down the ladder to second most important.

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From what you've said you have done your best to make a concerted effort to spend time with both your boyfriend and your best friend. That's really all you can do!
Relationships change especially close friendships when one person starts a romantic relationship with someone else. As long as you tell your bff he still means as much as he always has to you and make time for him he should make an effort to be a bit more understanding of everything. Change is difficult. Be sympathetic to that

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I would say if you weren't spending time with your bff then that was too much time; but clearly that's not the case. Your friend should respect that you have found someone and as long as you are not neglecting your friends (I.e. Not being there for them when they need you, going weeks without hanging out) then I say your friend is being a drama queen.

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Me and my boyfriend spend everyday together after we get off work, and since we work around the same place its easier. Any free time we have is spent together. You shouldn't worry as much as long as you're happy and your boyfriend is. My best friend does that too but only because he says every other sentence I talk about has my boyfriend in it somehow. But he's just learned to deal with it.

What's "too much" time??

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