We are expecting our first and our families are getting excited. I am not sure what to tell them about when they should come to visit after the baby arrives. I want to have some sort of routine kind of established before family is there. And I know I will be stressed out if my mom and MIL try to tell me how to do everything right away! I want to hear their advice but I also want to do things my own way which for some things is quite different than what they did 30 years ago.